Thursday, April 12, 2007

God Bless the Child That's Got His Own...

I had the oportunity of watching a group of small children playing on Easter. There's always that one kid who just kills you, who stands apart, listening to the voices in their little head, more doubting than participating. It got me thinking...

The way a child thinks, and more importantly, feels about his or her self sometimes sets a template for life. The identity the child builds is largely based on the external messages they receive (or perceive) about themself. This becomes a sort of psychic tattoo which lays down an unconcsious pattern of behavior and self-identification over the course of a life. Now of course there are other factors, and of course this pattern may be overshadowed by experience. In some cases, however, the child's (unresolved) feelings may be so strong that the unconsious template exerts enormous influence on the adult life. The will of the unconscious feelings is to fulfill themselves in reality. So, the child who doubts might end up as a prosecuting attourney or a suspicious mate, the child who is angry might become a dictatorial CEO or an abusive parent, the child who feels powerless may have trouble finding a career at all or renounce the day to day world altogether. If the pattern is clearly negative, the adult must confront the original feelings, no matter how old or repressed they may be. How? I'm not sure. I'm not a doctor, I just play one on the internet. God bless the child that's got his own!


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